My World Isn’t Gay or Straight

Funny, someone entered an internet search that seemed to reveal this Texas-based smartphone-user was surprised to find out that I am gay:
BHDisgayYep, I am. Booted Harleydude is gay. There, I said it. Any difference now that you know? I hope not. After all, I am the same guy that I have been all along.

I continue to have a debate with myself, and sometimes in reaction to what I read on some discussion forums or in exchange with some friends, about “how gay I am” or if the Gay Police will confiscate my gay card because I am not “gay enough.”

I continue to affirm that I am who I am, with some identities or feelings from the gay guy world, and some from the straight guy world. Rather than feel divided and left out of both, let me explain how I feel included as part of both worlds — a much better place to be!
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Silly Blog Spam

no_spamOne of the downfalls of moving my blog to WordPress is that WP is more frequently subject to silly spammers. I have had to install six anti-spam plugins (program enhancements) that trap that crap. Then all I have to do is delete it. But man, there is a lot of it! From 20 to 40 attempts each day to add comments on many of my posts, that if I did not set all comments to moderation and have these plugins installed, these spam messages would appear.

What annoys me…
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Sweet Early Spring Tease

This happens every year… we get a few nice days in a row with sunny, warm weather, then it gets cold for a few more weeks until Spring happens for real. However, yesterday it was sunny and reached 61F (16C). So what’s a biker to do?

Well, silly, if you have to ask…, yesterday I…
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Graciously Declining a Gay Wedding Invitation

I have mentioned before that my fiance and I are not fans of weddings in general — nothing to do with the nuptials being for opposite-sex or same-sex partners. Once again, though, a friend sent me a formal invitation to his same-sex wedding to his partner of three years. I like the guy a lot, and think his partner is very nice (though I don’t really know him), but was again faced with the dilemma on how to decline the invitation since we didn’t want to go.

I debated about how honest I should be when I replied, and came up with this response, which my fiance thought was gracious and gentle, but also honest:
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