Honoring Complete

My beloved husband let go one year ago, January 5, due to complications from pancreatic cancer. I honored his last wishes today, one year later. He asked me to scatter his ashes upon the Caribbean Sea off the west coast of Puerto Rico because he said it “was the only ocean I can swim in.”

Instead of using a boat, I had to change plans due to a covid-caused complication. I was okay with that, and actually, I thought…
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Community & Family Embrace

I have to admit, these last couple weeks since my sweet husband let go, I have been grieving. Some readers of this blog have sent me email of condolences and suggestions on self-care.

Here is more of the story of what happened, and how I am being cared for in the worst time of personal grief…
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Where Have I Been?

Hey there, loyal readers and followers of this blog.

Yes, I know that I haven’t posted anything in a long time. I really don’t want this blog to stop. However, two things are affecting my posting frequency on this “bootedmanblog” blog. Read on if interested…
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What Makes Our Marriage Healthy

I received an email the other day from a regular reader who wrote:

I was wondering if you could write about a healthy marriage, specifically a healthy gay marriage. Gay men are getting married at record rates now but we don’t really have “elders” like our parents did to guide us. Also, are there any particular things to be mindful about when only one partner is into fetish and leather?

Hmmm… Great Question! Thanks.

I have some thoughts about this matter…
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Court Summons of 7 Years Ago

Today marks 7 years since the Chief Judge of our county’s Circuit Court summoned Spouse and me to his chambers.

You shall appear at 10:00am in Room (x) of the County Judicial Center for proceedings that will change your life.

Not waiting to be picked up by the Sheriff, we drove ourselves to the County Seat, walked nervously into the courthouse, and made our way to the elevator to go to the 7th floor to find Chief Judge’s private chambers.

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A Tale of Two Hospitals (or How Ignorance is Bliss)

Long-term readers of this blog are aware that I endured a crash on my motorcycle while commuting to work on May 31, 2016. I was rushed to the closest hospital by ambulance.

Then just this past Friday, my Spouse had a serious medical emergency, and I rushed him to the hospital closest to our home. This is a different hospital, and man, what a difference we felt by ignorance.

What? What do I mean by that? More after the jump…
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