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Category Archives: partners
Being Alone is Lonely
My spouse has been in Pittsburgh caring for his mother for the last two weeks, going on his third week today. I spent five days with him up there, but I had to return to work last week.
I am rattling around our house…
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My Sunny Spouse
This past week has been a very difficult week for the spouse. I got him admitted to a clinical research study about his long-term illness. The study required draining him of at least one gallon, if not two, of his blood. On top of that, he had to endure…
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Romantic Thank You
Not to be outdone a dancing bear “bearing” flowers, when I arrived home from work on Friday, late and kinda tired because I was “acting boss” and had a number of things come up unexpectedly, my spouse pulled a surprise…
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It’s Not the Destination, But the Journey
The phrase, “it’s not the destination, but the journey” has been around for a long time, often stated in articles in motorcycle-related media and elsewhere.
While I always believe in having an end-goal (i.e., “the destination”), how we get there can be — and should be — a fun adventure.
Lately, my life journey has certainly been an adventure, with many twists and turns, peaks and valleys, and challenges. And I cannot say that the last 10 days have been any fun at all.
So what’s my outlook on how the journey has been twisted?
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A 22 Year Journey
I use the word “journey” a lot when I refer to my relationship with my spouse. Like all couples, we have had our joyous times, our down times, our travelin’ times, our comfy-at-home times, our happy times, our sad times, our best-friendiest times, our angry times, our in-sync times, our not-so-in-sync times, our healthy times, and our not healthy times.
Whatever times we have had over the past 22 years since we met in that fateful date (April 25, 1993), I can honestly say…
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Six Month Milestone
It has been an incredible and rough three-year journey for my spouse as he has dealt with three simultaneous infections born by a tick bite. Months and months of agony, being seen by more than 50 medical professionals, being prescribed more than 160 different drugs, and ongoing fights with a narrow-minded “big pharma”-funded group who deny that his condition could ever exist. Yet with persistent care from a superb general practitioner has brought us to a point that…
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Woo-Hoo: 2 + 22
Today, April 4, marks the second year that I have been married to the very best guy on the entire planet — my gracious, romantic, hunky, and adorable spouse! Thanks once again to our home state of Maryland for being the first state to permit same-sex marriage by popular vote!
I also say “+22” in the title of this post because come April 25, we will have been together for 22 years. I cannot say that we would have married on the day we met; however, I knew even back then that “he was the guy.”
So how will we celebrate our second year “cotton” anniversary?
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Affection + Appreciation = Love
During the past week, my spouse and I have found ways to show the other how he loves him.
Truly, I am honored and blessed to have a man who loves me as deeply as he does, and I try to return the same deep and abiding love through actions — not gifts, flowers, or nights out on the town — but in little, meaningful ways.
Last week, I…
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Monumental Breakthrough
Loyal readers of this blog know that my spouse has been dealing with serious issues related to long-term infections that he acquired from a tick bite. Three years ago today, he was officially diagnosed with the illness and began a long, torturous process of treatment, recovery, relapse, and now (we think) remission.
When a guy has been sick for so long, and living with serious consequences of that illness, you can’t blame him for dwelling in the present or for adopting a “one day at a time” attitude, without want to think about the future.
My spouse can’t walk without assistance, and he has constant pain in his joints from the permanent damage that those infections caused. So “just get through today” has been his ongoing mantra.
Until yesterday, when…
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