I read a posting from a member of my motorcycle club on social media where she described that after nine years, she is divorcing her husband. Not for reasons of abuse or adultery, but from her words, “growing older and falling out of love.”
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My husband and I were watching the television coverage of the Pope’s visit to the United States. We tuned to different channels for different views, but what we got when we tuned to a Catholic channel was…
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I attended the marriage ceremony of my kid-bro cousin on Saturday. A full, long concelebrated mass that I remember of that huge branch of my family tree for so many of my cousins’ Catholic weddings.
And man, was it a wedding-and-a-half. Much bigger than I expected for my no-frills cousin, but I’m sure his wife and her family had a lot to do with how big it became.
As I was listening to the priest when he was giving his homily about the importance of marriage, he said words that mean much to me about my marriage to my husband. He said,
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Just a brief break from the boots-and-cops postings. My spouse and I are pleased that finally our United States Supreme Court has rendered a decision that essentially says that a marriage is a marriage. That’s it. There is no “gay marriage,” or “heterosexual marriage,” but a marriage is a marriage is a marriage.
We appreciated the words of Justice Kennedy on the top of the front page of today’s Washington Post, our hometown newspaper, which stated…
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I live in an odd world — being gay and married to a man, but 99% of my friends and colleagues at work are straight — or at least “not out.” Generally, I live life as any other married (straight) man, with a few exceptions…
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My spouse and I celebrated our second year-as-married anniversary on April 4. That date coincided with a situation earlier that week in the State of Indiana where the Governor signed a law (at a closed signing ceremony attended by noted homophobes) that essentially permitted anyone to deny providing services to anyone else if they felt that serving that other person violated their religious beliefs. It was widely believed the new Indiana law was a hateful demonstration of anti-gay feelings among conservative legislators.
Regardless of where you sit on the political spectrum, many thought that the Indiana law was an extreme example of negative backlash against federal court judicial action that is requiring states to permit same-sex marriage even though their conservative leadership and majority of constituents do not want to allow it.
It was rather interesting to me, using my academic observation perspective, to see that a post that I made on social media, here:
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Today, April 4, marks the second year that I have been married to the very best guy on the entire planet — my gracious, romantic, hunky, and adorable spouse! Thanks once again to our home state of Maryland for being the first state to permit same-sex marriage by popular vote!
I also say “+22” in the title of this post because come April 25, we will have been together for 22 years. I cannot say that we would have married on the day we met; however, I knew even back then that “he was the guy.”
So how will we celebrate our second year “cotton” anniversary?
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I find myself here in paradise… working hard during the day (yeah, really) yet being rather bored and lonely after the work day is done.
My hotel is not on a beach, but a beach is not far away. However, …
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Ordinarily, my spouse and I live a quiet life where we do not engage in LGBT activism. I have participated to a degree when same-sex marriage was being considered by our state’s legislature by contacting certain elected officials I know by phone and with follow-up letters.
But most of the rest of the activism is not something in which we engage. If other states do different things, who am I as a non-resident non-taxpayer to express an opinion? Instead, we demonstrate that we lead our lives as good and caring citizens who happen to be married to the man he loves.
And by the way, the Earth has not stopped rotating on its axis or around the sun. Marriage is still marriage — it has not been “redefined.”
However, when my motorcycle club…
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I was honored to serve as the Best Man for two great guys who were married this past Saturday. (Read this post for more details and links to past posts about these guys).
Before their big day, I had some long discussions with these guys about who they would invite to their marriage ceremony, and who they actually expected to attend. So who actually attended?
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