The title of this post, “gays shouldn’t wear loggers,” is what someone actually said to me yesterday. I was shocked, and almost … almost … did not reply, but somehow, some way, I came up with a great comeback that left the neanderthal who said that speechless.
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Category Archives: Gay Issues
Lifestyle of Integrity
I am deeply saddened to see some people I thought were well-educated to fall for the National Organization for Marriage’s (NOM’s) latest fallacy, which is shown here. This image is being passed around on Facebook.
It says, in part, “if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle…,” referring to those of us who are gay. It doesn’t say that directly, but if you know or have heard anything about NOM, you know what they are referring to. They despise gay men and women, and have been on a crusade to foist their misguided opinions on the world.
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One Straight Man’s Perspective on Gay Marriage
This guest post was written by someone who wrote to me after reading my post about marrying my partner. He gave me permission to post his message on this blog.
I read your blog about marrying your partner. Congratulations. I’m glad that will work for you. I also read your post about a low-key event–glad you’re doing it that way. I want to comment on my perspective of the difference between a same sex marriage and a same sex wedding.
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Why Low-Key Marriage?
After yesterday’s announcement that my partner and I will marry, now that our home state became the first in the nation to allow same-sex marriage by a popular vote of the people (Maine was second, but also should be recognized and applauded)… several people asked us about our “wedding plans.”
In fact, I had several elected officials in our state’s general assembly ask if they could attend our wedding.
None of those asking us about our wedding saw the comments in yesterday’s blog post about our intent to go “low key” with our marriage. I gently explained to them why.
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Delivering Votes
The U.S. national election day is Tuesday, November 6, but many states allow for early voting, which allows voters to cast ballots before election day and hopefully avoid long lines and crowds. I am among those who took advantage of early voting. My partner and I voted last Thursday.
I take pride in the freedoms provided by our country’s long-enduring Constitution, which has allowed for open and free elections for more than 200 years.
In the past, I also was among those who would greet voters at the polls to try to persuade them to vote for a particular candidate or a position on a certain referendum issue. However, after getting badly burned in the 2010 election cycle, I vowed that I would not get involved with politics this year. I have kept my promise (both to myself and my partner). However, I couldn’t back off “cold turkey.” Let me explain…
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Masculine Gay Men
If any one set of words is searched on the ‘net more than any others that lead to visitors to this blog, it is “masculine gay men.”
Yes, it is possible to behave in a masculine manner as an ordinary guy, and also be gay. Not all men behave the same way. Not all “gays” behave the same way, either. Unfortunately, social stereotyping portrays gay men (mostly in the media) as being swishy queens with high-pitched voices and who are completely unable to do anything other than fuss, get flustered, hang out at Starsucks in shorts and flip-flops playing with their mobile devices, or plan the next “fabulous” party. That stereotyping drives men like me crazy.
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Speaking from the Heart
I appreciate and highly value the freedoms afforded to me as a citizen of the United States. Free speech, freedom to live and pursue happiness, and being able to vote for our elected leaders and on questions important to the day. Two weeks now the decision will be made as to who will become the President of the United States, serve in our Senate, House of Representatives, and on local issues brought to referendum on the ballot in my home state.
I read a lot on various media — newspapers, blogs, and Facebook. I have learned a lot about how people use electronic media to express their views. But nothing is as direct as being put into the position of having to speak from the heart.
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Closets Are For Boots
Closet: clos·et [kloz-it]
noun
1. a small room, enclosed recess, or cabinet for storing clothing, food, utensils, etc.
2. a small private room, especially one used for prayer, meditation, etc.
3. a state or condition of secrecy or carefully guarded privacy. Gay liberation has encouraged many gay people to come out of the closet.
4. water closet.
I extend definition #1 also to include boots, but I am writing today about definition #3. Guys who carefully guard their privacy, particularly those who identify as gay, questioning as gay, or simply don’t know their sexual orientation yet they know they are not interested in women sexually.
I know the feeling. I once lived in the closet, too. And I thought I was fooling everyone to believe I was straight. Instead, I was miserable and feeling that I was leading a double-life.
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Old Nemeses New Friends
Many of you have heard about the “It Gets Better Project” which began in September 2010 when Dan Savage and his partner made a video to inspire hope among young people facing harassment. Unfortunately, many youth who identify as being gay, are questioning their sexuality, or exhibit characteristics and behaviors that society has stereotyped as “being gay”, are subject to bullying, harassment, and abuse.
I know that for myself —
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Are Boots on Men Indicative of Being Gay?
Oh crap, here it goes again, this time from an historical society in Ohio, USA:
I have addressed this issue on this blog many times. Short answer: no. Longer answer: hell no.
Go ask a cowboy, motorcop, or a construction worker if by the mere fact that he wears boots means that he is gay, it’s likely he will want to lay you out flat with a quick one-two punch. As for me…
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