Putting My Boot Down

I was talking with my partner the other day about former department stores that once were part of the landscape in the area where we live.  My partner is quite a store history buff.  But what I remember wasn’t really the stores, as much as it was my emergence as a “Bootman” at the expense of department store offerings of kids’ shoes.

I remember during the week between Christmas and New Year’s when I was 10 years old, my Mom took me to one of these department stores, insisting that I get a new pair of shoes for school.

She bought me a pair, and while I tried them on in the store, I didn’t wear them so I didn’t know that they really didn’t fit well.  I remember later that week, Mom had me wear them to some family get-together, and by the time I got home, I pulled those suckers off and told Mom that I wasn’t going to wear them.  They hurt!  They looked awful!  I hated them!

I told her that I was going to wear my cowboy boots.  I had a pair of cowboy boots that I wore every day in Oklahoma.  But that time of year (holidays), we were back home in Maryland.  Mom had left my boots back on the ranch in Oklahoma.  I was bootless….

But by the mighty age of 10, I had developed enough independence that I told Mom that I wanted a pair of boots, and I would wear them to school.  At the time, “hard shoes” were required and sneakers were only allowed to be worn during physical education classes.

Mom was incredulous.  “You want to wear boots?  Why?”

Well, “because.  Because I like them.  I think they look good.  I like how they feel.”

Mom wasn’t one to argue.  She let us make our own decisions and learn from our mistakes, if what we were doing wouldn’t harm anyone.  So she took me to a store that sold boots.  I found a pair.  They were Dingos.  Not traditional cowboy boots, but I couldn’t find that style “back east.”  But Dingos with the broad square toe and clunky heels and tall shaft (for a 10-year old, anything over 6″ was “tall”) … man, they fit the bill.

I put on those boots and wore them to school when it started in January.  Most of my friends noticed, and some made comments like, “howdy, pardner” or “where’s your horse?”  But I could tell that some of my friends sorta envied my boots.  A couple friends got their own Dingos and began wearing them to school now and then.  I wore mine all the time, until I wore them out.

Mom thought I would find them uncomfortable, especially as the weather got warmer.  On the contrary, I was determined to LIKE the boots.  I must admit, now that I’m older, those boots hurt, too.  They weren’t made well and the footbed felt like nails.  But it didn’t matter.  They were boots, and this budding Bootman was born.

Since then, I’ve had hundreds of pairs of boots.  I never have reverted to wearing shoes again.  Even for weddings, formal occasions, or serving as the Best Man in my brother’s and some other friends’ weddings.  I’m your 100% Bootman.  Was 43 years ago, and still am today.

Life is short:  wear boots!

Cognac Boots and Blue Jeans

Cognac is a name of an alcoholic beverage, and also a name of a color for cowboy boots, derived from the color of the beverage.

There’s something striking about the color contrast with blue jeans and a pair of cognac cowboy boots … be they just plain leather, like these Lucchese Classic goatskin boots, or a pair of ostrich cowboy boots, which are a staple in a cowboy’s dress boots collection.

I really like how this color combination goes together … just the jeans, over the boots.  I think straight-leg jeans look best with these boots, so you can see more of the boot on each foot.

I dunno, I think any kind of cowboy boots look good with a pair of Wranglers, my preferred bluejeans.  But I think cognac-colored cowboy boots look best.

Life is short:  wear boots!

Videos

Over the past four years, I have created and posted a number of videos on boots and leather.  Some videos have been tutorials — explanations about features and styles of certain types of boots.  Some videos have been related to motorcycle riding or motorcycle cop competitions.  Other videos have been fetish-related, for fun.

This coming week, I may have time to make one or two more videos before having to be down for a while to recover from some minor surgery.  I was trying to figure out if I should make a video, and if so, what the video should be about.

As I was reviewing my videos, I found that three videos lead the pack in the number of views.  Perhaps it’s because these videos have been around for a while and have accumulated views over time.  Perhaps the high viewership has to do with the content.  Perhaps both?

I have asked before, and will try once more:  if I make a video, do you have a suggestion?  Let me know by clicking here

Meanwhile, as of the date of this posting, here are my “top three YouTube videos”

Flip-Flop Cowboy Boots

I detest flip-flops. You know, those rubber-footed things (I can’t even call them footwear) that some people wear — usually at the beach or at a swimming pool. When people walk in them, you hear the noise that gives them their name — a snap sound as the bottom of the rubber foot snaps up to strike the bottom of the heel. “Flip-flop, flip-flop” sounds so… awful. Some nut-cases have been seen wearing them while operating a motorcycle, which is incredibly stooopid, but as I have said before, Darwinian principles apply in those cases.

I digress… here’s my story about a pair of cowboy boots that sound like flip-flops. On my recent business trip, I brought three pairs of boots with me. One pair was a pair of hikers that I wore while doing my morning brisk walk exercise. Two other pairs were dress Lucchese cowboy boots, one pair in cognac, and another pair in dark grey.

The dark grey boots are not broken in yet. The boot shafts are still very stiff. As I walk in them, I hear a noise that sounds much like flip-flops do — when the back of the boot shaft strikes the back of my leg each time a take a step. “Flip-flop, flip-flop” go the boots. Sounds awful! Usually, I hear a more traditional “clunk” sound of the boot heel striking the floor. In this case, though, that sound is suppressed and has been replaced by a “flip-flop” noise. Yikes! I may suffer a damaged reputation as a cowboy boot-wearer! Aaaaahhhh!

I will continue to wear these boots to break them in, and hopefully the noise will cease. Meanwhile, I think I will wear taller socks, so the noise of the back of the boot shaft striking my leg will be muffled.

Oh… the trials of a Bootman who has a reputation to protect (LOL!)

Life is short: wear boots!

Hoooooommmmme

I have returned home to Maryland from my business trip in Texas. I had a few interesting cowboy boot sightings at the airport and on occasion throughout the time I was there.

For my visitors to this blog from other countries, let me share an insight: guys in Texas don’t wear boots very much. At least not in the major cities. Most guys dress like other guys, in dress shoes for work and sneakers in off-times. It is a myth that all guys in Texas are cowboys and wear cowboy boots. I did see a couple of real cowboys, including a nice guy at my hotel, who spoke with a very polite and respectful Texas drawl. His boots were square-toed Justins. He wore tight Wrangler jeans over the boots. Again, that’s common — few guys wear jeans inside boots.

I enjoyed my trip and seeing all the people with whom I have developed professional relationships over the years. It was nice to be publicly recognized for my contributions to my profession and my professional association. I learned a lot, and built some relationships with some new folks with whom I will work more closely on my new job.

I got out and walked a lot early in the week when it was warm and pleasant, though it got cool and rainy the day before I left.  There was a tourist area nearby with lots of restaurants, so I was able to find choices of foods I could eat at reasonable prices.  (And avoid Tex-Mex and BBQ, both of which aren’t compatible with a chronic health condition that I have).  I didn’t have a rental car (or Harley), and didn’t need one.  I just shared a taxi from the airport to the hotel and back.  No need for a car which I wouldn’t really use, nor wish to pay for.

The flights there and back were uneventful and on-time all ways.  First time that’s happened to me in ages!  American Airlines rocks!  

I am very happy to be back home, in the arms of my man, and in our own bed, all snuggly and warm. It’s nice to go to conferences, but even nicer to come back hoooooommmmme.

Life is short: cherish loved-ones, hearth, and home.

Leather Does Not Have To Be Black

Black leather is quite common, as it is easiest for leather crafters to dye and work with. But it is possible, and much easier now to find, leather that is dyed in other colors. Natural leather is light brown, so whatever finished products made from leather — jacket, pants, shirt, etc. — are dyed anyway.

It used to be that finding quality leather in an alternate color than black was hard to do, especially finding leather that is drum-dyed. That is, the dye saturates the entire hide, so over time as blemishes or scars occur during wear, the color remains the same.

The image of the black-clad leathered biker or the Gay Leatherman is a relic of the past, but remains omnipresent today. Yeah, I have a LOT of black leather. But I also have blue, grey, brown, and dark blue leather garments, too.  I even have one pair of cheap leather breeches dyed in “Silvertan” with blue and gold braiding (stripes) — like a CHP uniform.

I once tried on a red leather shirt, but it looked awful on me. Some young, lithe, trim guys can pull that off. Not me.

Anyway, leather does not “have” to be black.  It can be any color of the rainbow.  A good leathercrafter such as 665 Leather, Mr. S Leather, Northbound Leather have hides (or can get them) in various colors. You can specify a garment you want, such as breeches, shirts, jackets, pants, or even ties, to custom-fit you and be in the color you want. Mixing up the colors of a shirt, jacket, and pants makes things interesting, and gets more useful life from leatherwear.

Life is short: avoid being so monochromatic!

Birthday for "My Baby"

Today, November 3, marks the 20th birthday for “my baby.”  No, I don’t have children of my own, nor am I speaking about an inanimate object like my motorcycle.

I’m talking about being in the right place at the right time… or shall I say, a frightening event that led to a wonderful outcome.

Allow me to explain:  November 3, 1990, was a Saturday.  I had ridden my motorcycle to Baltimore to visit a niece for her birthday.  On my way home, cruisin’ down the interstate, late, in the dark… a car in front of me began weaving across lanes and was being driven very erratically.

I thought to myself, “keep away — drunk driver.”  I slowed down instead of trying to pass it, as I thought due to the wildly erratic driving I was witnessing, I might get hit.

The car slowed, sped up, weaved, then slammed on the brakes and stopped close to the shoulder.  Then the driver’s door opened and a guy got out and ran to the passenger side, then fell over.

I wasn’t quite sure what was going on, but this seemed to be serious.  Back in the day before cell phones, there wasn’t a way I could call for help.  So I stopped, and carefully walked up to the passenger side of the car.

Before me I saw a man who had fainted straight away.  A woman was in the passenger seat screaming, “my baby!”

I was aghast to discover that she was pregnant, and in the stages of final delivery.  OMG!  What to do?

My EMT training kicked in.  I kneeled down and asked the woman if I could help.  No sooner did I get close than she let out a howl and before I knew it, she delivered a baby!  Right before my eyes!

So there I was… the father of this child had recovered, but was babbling incoherently.  I grabbed a blanket from the back seat and wrapped it over the child and her mother.  I spoke to her calmly, and tried to sooth her.  She began to settle down when she let out another yelp — she delivered the placenta, which follows the birth of a child.

Gosh, what a mess.  A lot of blood and other “stuff” that comes out of a mother’s womb when she delivers a baby.  Thank goodness I had on a pair of gloves (convenient, eh? My first aid kit on my bike is always well stocked.)

I sat with her, wondering what to do, when thankfully, a state police cruiser pulled up along side.  I explained what was going on, and the trooper called for an ambulance, and took over.

It was then that I became light-headed and dizzy.  I collected myself, then congratulated this young couple on the birth of a daughter.

When I said, “daughter,” Dad fainted again.  I mean, he just collapsed right there in front of me.  I helped him get into the shock position — laying down, with his legs elevated, and sat with him until the ambulance came.  They quickly loaded up Mom and child into the ambulance.  The Dad wasn’t in any shape to drive, so he asked me to drive their car with him to the hospital.

All worked out fine.  The baby was born at full-term in a normal delivery.  Mom was fine.  Dad recovered enough to begin thanking me profusely and a few hours later, he even drove me back to pick up my bike which I had left on the side of the highway.

Mom and Dad named her after me — well, her middle name, anyway.  Poor kid… this name isn’t found on those “top of the baby name” charts.  But we all call her Cindy — her first name.  I’ve been there for birthday parties, her high school graduation, and she even stayed with me for a week (when she was 12) when her parents were both away on business travel.

What a nice young woman she has become.  Dear Cindy (middle name deleted), I am delighted to have been there to watch you arrive in this world, and to have remained in touch with you and your family since the night of your birth.

Life is short:  share the delights of childbirth (preferably in a hospital!)

Homesick

I know it’s kinda crazy. I’ve only been gone a couple days on this business trip. I have been seeing a lot of “old friends,” colleagues, and making new acquaintances. My speech yesterday rocked, and I got a standing ovation. All well and good. But man, oh man, do I miss my man.

In a past life, I traveled a lot. I mean A LOT — 35 weeks on average each year with some 60 – 70 locations packed among these trips. I saw a lot of the United States, from big cities to small towns, to the mountains, to the prairies, from the Gulf shores to the rocky cliffs of Maine and Alaska. From our island commonwealths and territories in the Atlantic and the Pacific, including way out to the Marianas… lots to see, lots to do. Canada was often included in my annual travels, as well.

I don’t travel nearly as much now. In fact, my last business trip was back in May for just a few days in Seattle. So here I am in Texas, and walking a lot before morning activities start and in the evening, too. Saw a lot of bikers since it’s warm here — stooopid guys riding without a helmet, no boots — so silly, dumb, and sad. (Even stooopider were those guys who had a helmet strapped to the back of their bike — like it’s going to do anything to protect them if someone in a cage hits them. Oh well, Darwinian principles are at play.)

But most of all, as I walk briskly for my regular exercise, I think of my man. “What’s he doing this minute?” I smile thinking of how he reads the newspaper so seriously. How he will have to prepare his lunch to take to work since I wasn’t there to do it for him. How he will open a can of tuna for dinner, rather than have something good, hearty, and hot since I wasn’t there to cook. I think of him working in our yard, planting some bulbs, clearing leaves, and tending to the myriad of things that he does. I hear that “bloop bloop bloop” of him programming the Tivo in my mind, and watching some silly blather on TV that lets him relax by zoning out on brain-dead stuff. And then I think of him going to bed… alone.

My bed is empty too, as is a part of my heart. My love is with me in spirit, but it’s not the same. Daily phone chats can only do so much. Gosh, I miss my man.

Life is short: cherish those you love.

Gay Leather Breeches

I saw an entry into Google that got directed to my website. It was, “Gay Leather Breeches.”

Sheesh… here we go again…. Breeches as worn by motor officers, for example, aren’t gay. Men who wear them may be gay or not. There are large number of cops who wear breeches every day, and the majority of them are not gay.

But I know that there are a lot of gay dudes who like to wear leather, and look for breeches to complete the full “BLUF” uniform (BLUF means “breeches and leather uniform fanclub”). So yeah, there are gay men who wear leather breeches, as shown here. But the breeches themselves aren’t gay.

What’s the difference between a pair of breeches and a pair of pants? Breeches are usually form-fitting to the person wearing them. They may have “balloons” which were built into riding breeches to give the rider (of a horse) ample maneuverability as he rode his horse. These days, most breeches do not have balloons. However, they will be form-fitted at the ankle, designed to taper close to the leg and close with snaps or (better yet) a zipper. That way, tall boots will fit over them well and the leather won’t bind or bunch up around the knee.

If you’re looking for a pair of leather breeches to wear as BLUF gear, consider a quality leather crafter as I mentioned yesterday, such as 665 Leather, Mr. S Leather, or Northbound Leather.

Leather breeches are comfortable and when fitted well (as in custom), they allow movement while operating a motorcycle, and look great when fitted with a tall pair of patrol boots.

Life is short: wear leather!

No Halloween This Year

No, the holiday of frivolity and fun has not been canceled.

However, this year, I am on business travel and thus will not be at home — so no Halloween for me.

My partner is at home, in the dark, not answering the door and not giving out treats.  He hates that kinda stuff anyway and in years past, I’ve always been the one to dress up in some “costume” (usually full leather or a fetish uniform) and greet kids at the door.  Just not this year….

Have a Happy Halloween without me!