Can I Come See Your Boot Collection?

From time to time, I receive messages complimenting the size, quality, and variety of boots in my collection. I appreciate that. Follow-up email has asked if a visit to see my boot collection could occur.

My response is, “sorry, don’t take it personally, but no.”

I do not have visitors other than family into my home, and family visits are few and far between. My partner is a very private man and detests (word selected for a reason) having people over. I will not have visitors when he is not at home. While he trusts me, having “Bootmen” come to my home is suggestive of interest in something beyond my boots. Sorry, ain’t gonna happen. It’s best to avoid anything like that.

Plus, while most of my boots are in my Boot Closet, there are others in my bedroom closets and a few other places here and there in my home. I’m not going to have someone parade through my house and look in my closets. While I have nothing to hide, a bedroom is a private space, and I don’t bring anyone other than my partner into our bedroom.

‘Nuf said. Thanks for the compliments and your interest. You can see all of my boots on my website.

Life is short: define your limits, and live within the established “house rules.”

If You Have Boots

I swear I’m not making this up.

Another google search landed a visitor to this blog.  The search was (copied directly):

WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU HAVE BOOTS HOW DO THEY WORK

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What do you do if you have boots?

Well, wear them!

How do they work?

They serve as footwear.  You know, covers your feet and legs and lets you walk on pavement without injuring your feet or getting them dirty.

I really do not have a clue what else to say. “What do you do if you have boots?”

WEAR THEM!

Life is short: wear boots … preferably, on your feet.

Common Problems When Wearing Cowboy Boots

This was an interesting question entered into a Google search and landed on my website, at the tutorial on how cowboy boots and jeans.  There is not any information on that tutorial about “problems” that happen when men wear boots.

I am not a podiatrist, and don’t even play one on TV, but I have opinions….

To be honest, the most common “problem” is what other people sometimes say, like wisecracks such as “where’s your horse?”  This happens in areas of the United States where men wearing cowboy boots is not common, such as the Northeast and Mid-Atlantic.  Honestly, this is only a “problem” if you allow it to be a problem. 

Other problems do occur, namely:

1.  Blisters:  caused by the boot rubbing on softer skin of the heel and foot.  If boots do not fit well, or slide, or are poorly constructed such that threads or interior leather components cause rubbing, then blisters may occur.  Solution: a) if you have blisters, do not wear that pair of boots until the blisters heal.  b) use moleskin, found at a drugstore, to provide cushion between the tender parts of your feet and the boot.  c) thoroughly examine the inside of the boot where the rubbing happened to feel if there are rough parts, and try to remove them or use sandpaper to smooth them out.  d) get good quality boots made by reputable manufacturers based in the U.S., Mexico, Canada, and Spain, not cheap Chinese-made junk.

2.  Foot pain:  usually in my experience foot pain happens when there is not enough support for the arch.  Good quality insoles can help.  Better quality boots will also help.  See above.

3.  Toe squeezing:  contrary to popular belief, pointed-toe cowboy boots have plenty of room in the foot at the toes for human toes to fit.  However, there have been reports about toes being squeezed together too tightly in some cowboy boots.  Solutions: a) get pointed-toe cowboy boots a half-size larger so they are longer in the toe, or b) get boots that have a rounded toe so there is more room in the toe box.

4.  Trips and falls:  some people are not accustomed to wearing boots that have higher heels than typical dress shoes or sneakers.  It is not unusual for a guy new to wearing boots to strike the boot’s heel on a stair or sidewalk and fall down.  Solutions: a) practice walking in your boots on a smooth surface.  Seriously — practice indeed helps!  b) lift your feet rather than glide along.  c) get boots with “walking heels” rather than higher, underslung heels.  Most men don’t take well to high heels, myself included.

5.  Wearing cowboy boots for the wrong application or at the wrong time: most cowboy boots have smooth leather soles. Because of that, the boots have little traction. If pavement is wet — or worse, if pavement is icy — then it is very likely that you could slip and fall. I do not recommend wearing cowboy boots on wet, icy, or snow-covered pavement. Doing so is a recipe for disaster, IMHO. Further, if you operate a motorcycle, I do not recommend wearing cowboy boots with smooth leather soles, either. Again, it is a traction issue. If you like the cowboy boot design and wish to wear boots of that design while operating a motorcycle, at least get them with rubber soles. If you have a pair of cowboy boots with leather soles that you would like to use on a motorcycle, then bring the boots to a cobbler to have rubber soles (or at a minimum a sole and heel plate) applied.

I think these are all of the common problems when wearing cowboy boots that I can think of. If you have more, please comment. That way, other people will see your comments when they read this post, or find it later which happens often thanks to search engines.

Life is short: wear boots!

When a Boot Sale Isn’t a Boot Sale

I tell ‘ya, it isn’t easy receiving email after email from my favorite boot stores offering this-n-that deal.  A few companies send email about once each quarter offering what truly is a sale price on certain boots.  Since I have them all (LOL!), I just check out the photos and surf on.

It does get annoying, however, when Sheplers sends email almost every day pleading, “only 6 days left — all boots on sale” … then when you check a week later, it’s the same darned so-called sale with the same prices, with yet more pleas saying, “only 3 days left!  Hurry!” (insert breathlessness).

As they say, “caveat emptor.”  Especially caveat those Sheplers people.  I like them and their products, I just don’t like their pricing policy with the list prices for their boots being marked up so the “discount” brings the boots to a price that is about the same as other retailers’ regular prices.  I also do not like the frequency of their email.  Every day, really?  Don’t they realize we can see through their ploy?

Don’t get me wrong — Sheplers has some great boots at competitive prices once you work through the hype and pricing techniques.  Their shipping charges are the highest in the U.S. western boot retailer industry, which is a major consideration.

Anyway, I recommend when shopping around for boots to get the exact name and style number of the boot that you want and then enter that into Google.  You may find the boots at a significantly lower cost elsewhere. (This past blog post gives some tips on shopping for boots on the Internet).

Caveat Emptor — Let the buyer beware.  It was true back in Roman times when the term was invented, and remains true today.

Life is short:  compare and shop before buying! 

A Shirt and Hat?

Here is another one of those amusing internet searches that landed on my “wearing cowboy boots” page on my website:

What to wear with cowboy boots and jeans?

Well, …

… a shirt and hat would be nice. Not sure why someone from Bronx, New York (USA), would ask that, and as I frequently say in response to these things, “if you have to ask…” LOL!

Life is short:  wear boots with jeans and….

Is It Gay to Wear Boots?

This is the last in this series of “is it gay?” blog postings for a while.  I swear, these internet searches all were done on the same day and end up here on this blog to one post or another that I have written over the past three years.

So here goes: is it gay to tuck pants into cowboy boots?

And this one: is it gay for a guy to wear boots?

And this one: is tucking you [sic] jeans into boots gay?

All of them are from various parts of the United States.  I guess that these searches were done by young guys who are concerned about what other people think about whether wearing boots — at all or with jeans tucked into them — is lame, dumb, or in their words, “gay.”

All I can say, as I have been saying, is: “oh brother.” (BHD rolls eyes.)  I could say something a bit more profane, but I will resist.  It just goes to show that there is a LOT of insecurity out there among a lot of young guys.  They will become more secure as they grow older and more mature.

Meanwhile, those of us guys who have grown up and are secure in our masculinity and self-perception — derived from our own sense of self-worth and acceptance of ourselves in our own skin and clothing (and boots) — do not worry about what other people think.  We will look at our boots in our closet when we dress, and pull on the boots we would like to wear that day — with our jeans, our leather, or our business attire.  Whatever we choose, it is our choice, because we don’t give a flyin’ frig about other people’s opinions.

Life is short:  be your own man and wear boots!

Bankers and Cowboy Boots

The obsession about whether on not one should wear cowboy boots continues, as evidenced by this google search which landed on my “Cowboy Boots and Jeans” web page:

The question from someone at Wachovia Bank’s headquarters in Charlotte, North Carolina, USA, was:  “can I wear cowboy boots with a suit?”

Well of course you can… the question is, do you want to?  Does the corporate dress code say anything about it?  Probably not.  Corporate dress codes have relaxed a lot in the past decade.  As long as you’re not wearing flip-flops or crocs, you can wear anything you like on your feet.

So I return, once again, to the age-old mantra, it is not if you can but what you think of yourself and your fear of what others may say.

Get over it.  Dress cowboy boots look fine with a suit.  On those rare occasions when I wear a suit, be it to an office or a high-class social function, I wear nice-looking cowboy boots.  If the boots are well-shined and don’t have dramatic flairs like colorful inlays or contrasting colors of scales from snakes, or are not dyed unusual colors, then certainly, you CAN and you SHOULD wear cowboy boots with a suit.

But only you make that choice.  What drives the choice is usually not the quality of the boot or its appearance, but your own internal fears or concerns about other people’s perceptions.  Be your own man.  Boot up!

Life is short:  wear boots!

Why Do People Wear Cowboy Boots?

From another Google search, someone from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, USA, entered:

While this person can’t spel (and since I was educamated in Oklahoma, I know we were taught the difference between “wear” and “were,”) nonetheless, this person’s query will be answered.

Why do people wear cowboy boots?  From my perspective, as an every-day boot wearer, I would say:

1) Cowboy boots look good — as good (or in my opinion, better) than dress shoes, worn with slacks or pants over them.  I wear them to the office in a professional setting all the time.  So do many other men who don’t have hang-ups about what’s on their feet or fears about what others may say. (And no, one does not “have” to wear a cowboy hat when wearing cowboy boots.)

2)  Cowboy boots feel good — boots feel solid on the foot.  Well-made cowboy boots are sturdy, but flexible.  They are easy to walk in and yet are rigid enough to protect the ankle.

3)  Cowboy boots come in a variety of colors, shapes of toes, and can be plain or fancy — to fit the wearer’s interest and style.

4)  Cowboy boots can have a higher heel (compared with dress shoes).  Some guys like a little more height than what God has given them.  And I’m not talking about spikey heels.  I’m talking about a “cowboy walking heel” which is 1-5/8″ to 1-3/4″ high — about an inch higher than a typical shoe heel, and yet not so high as to make it difficult to walk in them.  Some cowboy boots have heels from two to three inches, or more.  I have trouble walking in heels higher than two inches, so most of my cowboy boots have walking heels — for my comfort.

5)  Cowboy boots (or any real boot for that matter) provides better protection to the ankle which can be injured easily by a trip or fall.

6)  Some men wear cowboy boots because of the culture of where they live.  Heck, this question was asked in Oklahoma City?  Goodness gracious, lots and lots of men wear cowboy boots there all the time.

Now, on another matter, this search via Yahoo asked, “can you cowboy boots in ice?” It was from North Carolina. Just goes to demonstrate that what people enter into search engines does not have to makes sense, but ends up on this blog, anyway.

Cowboy boots with smooth leather soles on ice? Come on! Ya’ gotta be kiddin’! Well, you can wear cowboy boots when there is ice and snow on the ground, but if you do not want to end up on your ass with a broken ankle or leg, you might want to re-think that … wear sturdy, tall boots with soles that have good traction, and remember that no boot sole, no matter how big the lugs, can prevent a fall on ice. ‘nuf said.

Life is short:  stop obsessing.  WEAR boots, but in the right place at the right time!

Why Do Gay Guys Like to Wear Boots?

Google never ceases to amuse me by landing visitors to this blog who enter questions like, “Why do gay guys like to wear boots?”

In this instance, the question was asked by someone in Singapore, but it is a fairly common question around the world.

Okay, I’m a gay guy, and I like to wear boots.  Why?  I like how they look and how they feel on my feet.  Many men wear boots in the United States and around the world.

In my opinion, the number of gay men who wear boots is rather small in comparison to the overall number of gay men out there.  In fact, in my observation, it seems to me that fewer gay men wear boots than the proportion of straight men who like to wear boots.  I think that’s because there are fewer gay men who are masculine guys.  To me, most gay men I have met are into fashion and like to dress up, including wearing dress shoes. 

Masculine men, gay or straight, like boots.  I’m one of ’em.  The boot-wearing has nothing to do with my sexual orientation.  It has to do with the kind of guy I am — your regular “Joe Schmoe” in leather and boots.  No big deal.  I am who I am.  Other guys are who they are — gay or straight, booted or not.

Life is short:  stop obsessing over stereotypes and perceptions in trying to connect one thing with another that really are not related.

Returning to my Booted Roots

Well, I’m not in Oklahoma, where I spent many carefree hours riding my beloved Palamino, Maggie.  Yesterday, I had the distinct pleasure to stay with a professional colleague who has become a good friend over the years.  She owns a horse farm north of Seattle — in the Arlington, Washington, area.  (As in “Washington State”, not Arlington, Virginia, near Washington, DC.  I know… so confusing!)

This photo shows me with some of my friend’s horses while I was feeding them.  Seems like one of the horses was more interested in my Lucchese cowboy boots than his hay!  LOL!

I had meetings last Thursday and Friday in the Seattle area, and another one south of Tacoma on Monday.  The weekend was free of meetings.  My friend invited me to come stay on her farm on Friday night.  What a treat!

Unfortunately, I couldn’t mount one of her Palaminos and ride, as my doc says that I just can’t chance re-injuring my hernia.  Instead, I helped muck out the stalls and feed my friend’s horses.  Then we sat by the fire and talked all day, while I picked her brain for professional advice and counsel.

Last night, I came into Seattle and stayed downtown.  I had intended to go out with a friend to a leather bar.  However, I had to beg off, as I caught a cold on the way out here, and I am not feeling up to staying up late being a bad-a** leather dude in a bar.  I was a good boy, and went to bed early. 

I will spend today (Sunday) doing some touristy stuff with another friend, to the degree I have energy for it. 

One more meeting looms on Monday, then I get to come home to my beloved partner, family, and friends.

It’s been a very productive trip, and I learned a lot.  The visit to my friend’s horse farm was the highlight of my visit. 

Life is short:  enjoy both business and pleasure!