Negotiating a Net Gain

My spouse and I live a comfortable life. We have a nice home and the things that make life comfortable. We don’t play “keep up with the Joneses” and don’t give a rat’s patootee if we do not lease the latest yuppie-mobile or have the most recent smartphone (or even a smartphone at all.) We seldom go out to eat, and I pack a lunch each day to bring to work. Sure, we could afford these things, but we’re not interested.

Also, being children of parents who lived through the Great Depression of the 1930s means that we grew up in an environment of “waste not, want not” — meaning that we watch what we spend, only spend what we have (that is, no carrying credit card balances), keep a healthy emergency fund, and are generally frugal.

The other day through careful and tedious negotiation, I reduced monthly household expenses by $105. It is hard to do that as expenses and fees for service continue to rise, but it is possible. This is what I did.
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Buck-Passing Causes Celebrations

RingsRainbowYesterday, the United States Supreme Court refused to hear appeals from five states that ban same-sex marriage where Federal appeals courts serving those states (Indiana, Oklahoma, Virginia, Wisconsin, and Utah), effectively making same-sex marriage legal in these states.

I had a few people, including my boss, ask me if I were celebrating.
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Steel Toe vs. non-Steel Toe Boots

Chipnonsteel08I received an email from a guy who said that he was new to motorcycling and wanted my opinion on the choices of steel toe or non-steel toe engineer boots to wear when riding.

First-off, congratulations on the wise choice to wear motorcycle boots when riding.

His questions were:

a lot of these type of boots have a steel toe. Is the steel toe necessary? Does the steel toe add to the weight of the boot? Is the steel toe a safety feature? If so, what how comfortable are boots with a steel toe?

My response was…
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Keeping the Marriage Strong

I am an avid reader. I see a number of blogs and articles about maintaining the most important relationship in the world: the relationship with a spouse. This post goes deeper into that relationship, and is written primarily for those who are married (or in permanently committed relationships as I considered the relationship with my man to be before we could legally married.)

Here is a summary of some of the best ideas I have read — and employ — to keep our marriage strong.
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When Religous Adherents Believe It Is A Choice

I have a large family on my father’s side. Most of them are Catholic. I have one cousin, however, who was baptized Catholic yet left the Church and calls himself a “Bible believing Christian.”

He is among those who have expressed inaccurate points of view about homosexuality. His occasional diatribes cause me sadness. I am so sorry for him that he has been indoctrinated (some may say, “brainwashed,”) by others in his sphere to believe that homosexuality is a choice and is “practiced.”

Here are some things he has said in public statements,
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