I wrote a series of posts on this blog about two guys — a motorcop and a firefighter — who were adjusting to being out as gay men at their respective places of work and interacting with their (straight) co-workers, family, & friends, and were in a relationship with each other.
After two years of serious courtship, they were engaged to be married last May. I was very happy for both of them.
I thought they would marry last autumn, but…
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I’ve heard it all now.
Yesterday, I received a phone call from someone I have worked with, sporadically, on local government advocacy issues. We advocate for different matters — he is very active on the LGBT advocacy, while I engage in more mundane issues like transportation, roads, zoning, construction on in-fill lots, and so forth.
This guy and I met about ten years ago when we both volunteered to start up a local LGBT social group, but as is typical for gay things, the group started with a flash, then within a couple years, the A-gays who ran it flitted off to other things and the group fell apart.
Anyway, the phone call from this guy caught me off guard. He wanted me to know that he was getting married, but he did not want my feelings to be hurt because he was not sending me an invitation to the wedding.
Frankly, I felt…
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Okay, I am coming clean. I am admitting for the first time, publicly, that I have straight friends.
I sat my spouse down last night and told him the truth — the complete story — that his spouse of 21+ years has straight friends and that I have been in touch with them by email or even over lunch last Friday.
But don’t worry about it… just because some of my male friends are straight does not mean…
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I just had to laugh when I burst the stereotype bubble for yet another typical straight dude whose assumptions were blown to smithereens again by interacting with me. Oh well… (giggle.)
Last Saturday,
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A good friend of mine and regular reader of this blog has started his own blog. He recently wrote a post about “heteronormativity.” It reminded me that I had posted about this issue and I looked up my old post. Man, back in 2010. Time to update with a new post on the matter, since back then my (then) partner and I were not married, and we are now.
And with same-sex marriage hitting the headlines again due to U.S. Supreme Court inaction, heteronormativity has become a topic of conversation again. What does same-sex marriage and heteronormativity have to do with each other, if anything?
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I have a large family on my father’s side. Most of them are Catholic. I have one cousin, however, who was baptized Catholic yet left the Church and calls himself a “Bible believing Christian.”
He is among those who have expressed inaccurate points of view about homosexuality. His occasional diatribes cause me sadness. I am so sorry for him that he has been indoctrinated (some may say, “brainwashed,”) by others in his sphere to believe that homosexuality is a choice and is “practiced.”
Here are some things he has said in public statements,
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Someone I know is an event planner. He does a very good job. I have heard many compliments about the events that he has organized, set up, decorated, and managed. He is gay. So what…. However, he fulfills many gay stereotypes from the sound of his voice to his over-the-top party planning.
He and I know each other because his grandmother is one of the LOLITs who I take grocery shopping. He learned that I married my man, and sent me a message of congratulations. I thanked him, then didn’t think a thing about it until…
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Term “cooties” definition: “a children’s term for an imaginary germ or repellent quality transmitted by another person.”
I was communicating with a friend the other day, and referred to the term, “gay cooties.” I said that there are still people in this world who react to me as if I had “gay cooties,” withdraw, and keep their distance.
My friend replied to ask, “are there still neanderthals who think that way today?” He asked me to explain more.
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There’s a guy I know both at work and through volunteering at our local fire department. Nice guy, 30s, good-looking, single. Great sense of humor and well respected among everyone we mutually know.
I would not consider this guy a friend — more of an acquaintance — but we are friendly to each other when we see one another at meetings, passing in the hall, or so forth.
The other day, he came to my office early in the morning and asked, “do you have plans for lunch?” Since he generally does not ask me to join him for lunch, I took that question that he had another reason to ask me to lunch. I replied to say, “I brought my lunch, but sure, if you want to get out, let’s plan on it.”
He said, “Great. I have something I want to talk to you about.”
When we met later at lunchtime, he said, “You are ‘just you’. I admire that. Let me explain what I mean.” My curiosity piqued,
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I just about died laughing at the homophobe on a website forum that linked to my website referring to me as being “light in the loafers.”
That expression…
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