Category Archives: partners

Return of Romance

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When a man is in a permanent relationship for what seems like forever, in our case, almost 21 years, he gets comfortable in a natural routine. Go to work, come home, make dinner, catch up on the daily news and each other’s day while apart (in my case, I work in an office all day and my spouse is retired, and at home.)

The “settled routine” is comforting, but does not lend itself to romance… much.

However, last night was an example of how much my spouse truly cares and loves me. Let me begin by recounting my day, that led to a wonderful romantic surprise when I got home.
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Biggest Welcome Surprise

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Posted: 8:50pm 12/27/2013.

The doorbell rang while we were having dinner tonight. My spouse grumbled, “who could that be? Tell them we’re eating dinner and to go away.”

Forgive him, he remains grouchy because he is not feeling well.

When I looked out the window at the door, I jumped and screamed, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?”
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An Hour on Christmas Day

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My spouse remains awfully sick. Yesterday, Christmas Day, he woke late, so I thought perhaps it was a good sign that he slept well the night before. He got up, but needed help dressing.

He gave me that blank stare — that scary blank stare — indicating that his disease fogged his brain. He didn’t know what day it was.

I bucked up and didn’t cry. I just held him.
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Showing My Love

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Sometimes I close this blog with, “show those you love how you love them.” I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. It is one thing to tell someone you love that you love them, but doing something for them in a caring, gentle manner is better. You don’t have to say, “I love you,” but your actions show it.

So today, I am letting my actions speak for me and speak to my spouse who remains ill with a relapse of his long-term infection.
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Hopeful

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This is a brief update about my spouse who has had an awful relapse of the infection that took him out last year.

I wrote a post, “Lookin’ for Happy” on December 6, stating that my spouse was not able to walk or eat much. He was so sick…

But one week later, we have reasons to be hopeful.
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Non-Cop Motorcycle Escort

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My spouse has not driven his own car for some 18 months due to a restriction placed upon him by his physician. His long-term illness caused severe dizzy spells that would occur without warning. He could not be behind the wheel of a car if one of those severe spells happened, or risk death of himself and others.

But his doc evaluated his condition again and authorized my spouse to drive if he wanted to since my spouse has been “spell-free” for over three months. So we planned a “re-orientation to driving” event of our own.
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My Romantic Spouse

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When I arrived home from work yesterday, I was tired and dragging ass. I enjoy commuting on my Harley, but when it is very hot and humid, it takes its toll, especially after a hard day at the office. I was looking forward to having dinner at home, then curling up on the sofa next to my spouse … and probably nodding off.

Well… that didn’t quite happen.
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