Lookin’ for Happy

Right now, things aren’t going so well in the ol’ BHD household. My spouse is seriously ill once again. Treatments are not working (yet). Even my world-famous chicken soup, which is the only thing he can eat right now, is not aiding with the recovery.

My spirits are challenged.

I am not happy at all to return to intense caregiving, interaction with medical professionals, contacting the health insurance provider, and chasing after prescriptions, test results, and whatnot. It’s heartbreaking to have to carry my spouse to the toilet… but he can’t walk. Yep, and there’s more, but let’s suffice it to say that he has been whallopped by a whale of a relapse.

All this, on top of being promoted at work so it makes my work day exceptionally busy. I hardly have a minute to juggle all the activities at work with fielding phone calls from medical professionals.

Then Christmas will soon be here. No ho-ho-ho for us. We are struggling to figure out how to break the news to my spouse’s mother that we cannot come to get her to spend a week with us during Christmas. That news will break her heart, adding to the dismay and worry that my spouse is feeling. But my mother-in-law does not drive, has no sane or able-bodied friends, and at her age, cannot manage the logistics of air, bus, or rail travel. If we don’t drive up to get her, she is stuck, all alone up bear in da ‘burgh.

This just ain’t right… at all.

However, I have mustered up my energy and focus. I have corralled my senior pal network to help out. My spouse is not alone while I am at work. I have canceled all personal activities. I am focused on caring for the man I love through this crisis to stability to recovery once more.

I have deep faith that he will recover. He will. He must. Just not now.

If you are the praying sort, please do. But we are not looking for sympathy… just understanding that if this blog is not the usual happy-peppy-perky style that it usually is, this is the reason. I may not have the time to post for a while, so please go have fun, be happy, and share joy.


Because: life is short, and each and every day, you must show those you love how you love them.

9 thoughts on “Lookin’ for Happy

  1. Oh man, didn’t see this coming! So sudden — and he was doing so well. I know you are a man of deep faith and confidence in a brighter future, but I also know your heart like no one else but your twin does.

    You care for your spouse, and I’ll care for you. Calling every day, twice a day, focused on you. I love you, bro.

    Ore e sempre,

  2. My prayers are with you and your spouse. I enjoy reading your messages every day and enjoy hearing what all you do for your spouse and others. You seem to be a fine gentleman. I will pray for his recovery and for your strength .

  3. My prayers are with you! I pray for your spouse’s recovery as well as your strength as you care for him. Your love, faith, comfort and strength helped to bring him to recovery over the past year, and you’ll do it again.


  4. I am sorry to read that your spouse isn’t feeling well again. I hope he gets better soon and have your mother-in-law be there for Christmas.

  5. Do not lose sight of “happy” and know there are many people praying for you and your loved ones (Spouse and “Seniors unit”) ……ARken

  6. Oh man! Sorry to see this. I hope everything gets better for both of you guys!
    Big hug from Spain

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