My partner and I recently attended a support group meeting for people who have (or have had) his illness. The purpose of the meeting is to share ideas and information about how the disease can be treated, and how its symptoms affect not only the person infected, but her or his spouse and family.
What I heard a lot about was divorce. Yeah, marriage dissolution.
The disease symptoms causes the person with them to behave with extreme emotion at random times with loud outbursts. He (or she) is on an emotional roller coaster, and the extremes are unpredictable. My partner and I have experienced that situation — a lot. We had no evidence, until now, to know that happened with almost everyone with this disease and how severely relationships are strained by emotional outbursts caused the disease’s neurological symptoms. I sure can attest, though, this disease “has a voice” and that voice gets very ugly sometimes.
It really bothered us to hear that more than half of the some 40 attendees at this meeting had divorced or were separated, pending divorce — all due to how the illness causes symptoms that mess with the head, and incite strong arguments, anger, and other problems. Will the relationship I share with my partner be a similar casualty?
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