I have written posts on this blog from time to time about various characteristics of a masculine man, and trying to diffuse wrongly-held stereotypes that all gay men are frilly-froo-froo queens with lispy high-pitched voices and limp wrists. Unfortunately, there are too many postings on the internet that portray that stereotype that it persists deeply among the less-educated and closed-minded among us.
Anyway, there is one behavioral trait that masculine men have about which I wish to write, and that is optimism. Masculine men are, for the most part, optimistic. Positive. Forward-looking.
I am not a psychologist, but I am an observer of people. I interact with a lot of people in my daily routine, both in person and on-line. I generally note that men who exhibit masculine behaviors are also optimistic. They say positive things. They smile and say kind words. They suggest good things to come in the future–even for people they don’t know.
On the other hand, I have observed that men who are more on the effeminate side of the curve also tend to be more pessimistic. They express worry or concern (in a negative way, such as “it could get worse” or “I hope I don’t get it!”) The say things that indicate fear — either fear of being “outed” or fear of others in a general way, such as someone fearing a bully in school and going out of his way to avoid interaction with that person.
This is by no means a scientific study. I’m sure there are many other men whose behaviors are opposite those that I have described above. I am only reflecting a snapshot of my daily interactions for about the past month.
It is interesting and intriguing to me that I see a link between masculinity and optimism. That is probably because there is a strong association between masculinity and being secure. If someone is secure in his self-perception, then he can be more optimistic, as well.
What are your thoughts? Leave a comment.
Life is short: be optimistic!