Power of Positivity x2

In my last post, I described how my mood affects my Spouse’s mood, and subsequently, affects his overall health.

I have been working hard to maintain a positive attitude, with a broad smile and genuine warmth to go along with it.

Well, it paid off…

Yesterday, I brought The Spouse to another specialist to discuss his ongoing physical condition with constant problems of peripheral pain and “head pressure.”

Good news was that when this specialist reviewed a very recent MRI of his brain, the results were “clear — no issues.” Frankly, I did not expect anything to be found that was wrong, but I was relieved nonetheless to have a formal diagnosis that there was not something more serious going on, like a brain tumor (we had that scare a few years ago.)

This doctor was like none other we have seen in the last several years. He reviewed my records of The Spouse’s medical care, which he referred to as “meticulous.” He asked many questions, and conducted a thorough physical and mental exam. He did not pretend that The Spouse’s long-term post-disease syndrome did not exist (as most others have.)

The doctor also asked us about our life at home, and our relationship. Spouse was at first reserved about describing what we consider to be intimate and private information, but this doctor wanted to cover all bases and was encouraging of our feeling comfortable and that we could trust him and be candid.

What warmed my heart was to hear The Spouse say things like, “When I have a rough day, I can depend on (BHD) to boost my spirits.” or “When I don’t feel good, (BHD’s) smile and embrace makes me feel better.” or “Those silly antics, such as telling me a bad pun or making a silly face just make me laugh.”

Yeah, it’s all about the power of positivity.

The doctor commended that, and made me feel that my efforts to maintain our relationship was worth it. He stated that he had seen so many other cases where the relationship between spouses failed and ended up with tragic consequences.

After an hour of review and examination, the doctor talked about all we had been through. I liked that he referred to “we.” Yes, the Spouse’s health issues certainly affect me, too.

He moved to a discussion about how powerful the mind is over one’s physical condition. He commended us for our relentless pursuit, having tackled 12 specialties, with all issues “ruled out.” It is not active infection, disease, vascular, ear/nose/throat, heart, lung, kidney, liver, skeletal, etc. issues. The doc suggested an approach that we haven’t tried and which may, just may, help the Spouse manage these physical issues.

We left feeling better, and for the first time in a long time, I didn’t have to peel the Spouse off the ceiling from having another doctor say, “nothing’s wrong” or “it’s all in your head.” This doctor agreed — it IS all in the head, but it has serious physical consequences that are not imaginary!

Life is short: use positivity to pursue a course of action.