Every day we are faced with choices. What to eat? Where to go? Buy a product or service…. But the more challenging decision are those about what one would do when having to make a choice about getting involved in something dividing others; choosing to say something nice vs. not anything at all; or making a comment/voicing an opinion that is often a judgment on someone else.
Those who are of the Christian faith sometimes are heard asking, “what would Jesus do?” (WWJD) [to act in a manor that demonstrates the love accredited to Jesus in how he cared for others.]
This past week, I had several people tell me that they ask themselves, “what would (BHD) do?” (They use my real name). Man, that’s a heavy burden to think that I am considered an example to follow.
Where my friends determine the example I set is by the life I lead and how I express myself here on this blog or on social media.
I generally follow my own self-imposed rules:
- Do not post about religion (at least on social media, and mostly not here on this blog… mostly)
- Do not post about politics (ditto what I said about religion)
- Post something positive, not negative. People have way too much negativity in their lives. The last thing they need is to see their friends griping or whining about something.
- Solve problems, don’t create them.
- Share a smile.
So during the last week, I overheard two colleagues in a disagreement, and then I heard one of them say, “what would (BHD) do?”
The other person answered… pretty much on target with what I would have done. Take the high road; fix it; move on. And that is what they did. The funny thing was, they did not know that I overheard them use me as an example to resolve their conflict.
That was rather scary to me… to think that I have a reputation that others think about and choose to follow, solving their own problems and resolving conflict.
I thought that was enough when yesterday, a friend sent me an email to say that he was faced with a difficult choice, and told me that he thought to himself, “what would (BHD) do?” He told me that he made a tough decision on a moral dilemma, thinking that if I had that choice, his decision is what I would have done.
Man… again: a heavy burden.
I am but just a man. A man of faith and I believe, of integrity. But I am also quite human. I have my faults, frailties, and failures. I am no Jesus.
I choose, though, to speak publicly about making the right choices, helping others, and doing the right thing. That is how I was raised and how my spouse was raised and lives as well.
Next time you have a dilemma, ask yourself, “what’s the right thing to do?” … then choose it.
Life is short: have faith that making the right choices is the right thing to do.