I have been writing this blog since January 2008; some 12+ years now. During that time, I have been contacted by people who had questions about something that I wrote about on this blog (boots, leather, or motorcycle riding, or combination thereof.)
Some of these contacts grew into deeper connections and friendships. Today I reflect…
…on some of those friendships, both past and current.
I think my first real strong friendship that grew out of initial contact from my website (before this blog) was with “AZ Leather Explorer” who lives in Phoenix, Arizona. We “met” through the hotboots.com “boots on line” board.
We grew very close, talked frequently on the phone, and emailed almost every day.
I drove up to meet him (half-way) when he visited Pennsylvania in 2005 and 2006. I also visited him in Phoenix twice. During the first visit in February, 2009, I rented a Harley and we had a great day riding to see a friend of his in Sedona. AZ’s hospitality was gracious, kind, and gentle. We had four days together and had a lot of fun.
I visited him again in September 2009 at the end of a business trip that brought me to Phoenix once more. That last visit was not as good as the first. He was busy at work. I offered to do some home repairs for him while he was at work. We did not have much time together. Our visit was kind of a bummer. Not sure why.
By 2012, our relationship ended. He sent me an email that to this day leaves me puzzled. He said that he didn’t want to spend more time on a friendship with me. So essentially he “dumped me.” I don’t understand why. I thought he was going through tough times and things would improve, but after a few more attempts to check in and say hi, even as recently as two days ago, I got no response.
I am sad about that… we were at one time as close as brothers. But no more.
Subsequently, I also “met” some other really nice guys. Steve, my riding buddy for our Utah motorcycle adventures, developed a fond and firm friendship through this blog. That friendship remains strong today.
We had planned another Harley adventure this year, but had to cancel due to the pandemic. We may try again next year provided we can get a vaccine for Covid-19.
There have been a few other guys I have “met” through this blog who have come-and-gone in my life. Brian, Chad, Vince, Shane, “other Steve” and the legendary “Bamaboy”. I enjoyed meeting them when we could, but for various reasons, we drifted apart.
I also really enjoyed getting to know “Weaving Cowboy” who has been writing and commenting on this blog since 2011. At one point, we were emailing every day. He bought several pairs of boots from me, and subsequently I also gave him some of my boots that I thought he would like to have and wear.
We developed a close friendship. He has commented as recently as yesterday. However, our email dialogue has stopped. Again, head scratches as to why, but it may be more my fault since keeping in touch is a two-way street and I have been somewhat quiet on my sending (my bad.)
Our disconnect may also have to do with the fact that I do not use social media platforms that he does, such as Instagram. I also don’t text, either (also as he does). I remain happily a dinosaur.
Life is short: enjoy your friends and hold them when you have them.