No Man Is A Failure Who…

My posts vary from sharing my experience and knowledge about boots to continuing to deal with this downer funk I am in since the disaster of November 8 and the incoming destruction of my beloved country and its world standing. But there is nothing I can do about that (except cry about MATW*…)

Family and friends have been trying to buoy my spirits. This past weekend, those who love and depend on me reminded me of my favorite Christmas movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” and share in words the lesson from it, that…

No man is a failure who has friends.

There are also many references and demonstrations in that film of how and why it is important to count the blessings that one has. And I really do have many blessings:

* A husband who loves me deeply and cares for me with all of his heart and soul

* A nice home (that’s paid for)

* Family far and wide, large in number, and always thoughtful, caring, and loving. I am blessed to have a family who accepts me as odd as I am, and who even accommodate communicating with me “the old-fashioned way” via email and phone calls despite my refusal to have a phone that accepts or sends text messages.

* Friends who I look after — my “senior pals,” — but who also look after me. They help me with caregiving responsibilities for my husband. They show how much my help with running errands for them, taking them grocery shopping, doing home fix-it jobs, and so forth is appreciated. Their smiles and affection warms my soul.

* A community that is more than “tolerant.” My community openly embraces diversity of all types — race, religion (or not), sexual orientation, ethnicity, sex, age, marital status — you name the category — we have more than 1,000,000 diverse souls who live in the county of my birth and demonstrate daily that my community is far better than many other places where bigotry, fear, and hatred (the hypocrisy of homophobic and Islamophobic “Christians”) rule the day.

* A great job that I am good at and enjoy, with the best boss I have ever had anywhere in my working career

* No debt

* Money in the bank for at least one year’s emergency fund (goodness knows with the upcoming national disaster, we may need it!)

I could prattle on, but the point is that while I am still very concerned about what my country has done and will degrade to, I still have much to be grateful for, and I am. Every day. Every hour I get to spend with my beloved spouse, my family, and my friends… every time I engage in some wonky policy debate while testifying before elected and appointed officials — I know that my freedoms were hard-won by men and women like me and many others, and hard-earned.

Life is short: count your blessings because No man is a failure who has friends.

*MATW: Make America The Worst