{"id":583,"date":"2009-10-22T04:00:00","date_gmt":"2009-10-22T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=583"},"modified":"2009-10-22T04:00:00","modified_gmt":"2009-10-22T08:00:00","slug":"what-is-not-mutually-exclusive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=583","title":{"rendered":"What Is Not Mutually Exclusive"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a onblur=\"try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}\" href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/_yytsDp42pSs\/St-zGJZvpCI\/AAAAAAAABv8\/_oSuPeWginU\/s1600-h\/Rumble.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 170px; height: 320px;\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/_yytsDp42pSs\/St-zGJZvpCI\/AAAAAAAABv8\/_oSuPeWginU\/s320\/Rumble.jpg?w=584\" alt=\"\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5395227796797629474\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><span style=\"font-family:verdana;\">To me, there are some things that people write or say that implies that they believe that the following things are mutually exclusive:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Being a &#8216;biker&#8217; and being gay<\/i>.  I&#8217;ve blogged a lot about that.  I am both.  There are a number of gay men who like to ride motorcycles, and who enjoy the &#8220;biker presence&#8221; (however that is defined.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Being gay and masculine.<\/i>  Yes, I am both.  The former is my sexuality and the latter is my observed behavior.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Being gay and not being into fashion.<\/i>  Yep, that&#8217;s me.  I&#8217;m just a regular guy who prefers boots, jeans, t-shirts, and leather versus suits, ties, dress shoes, and formal wear.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Being gay and not being able to dance.<\/i>  Yes, it is true, and I am evidence of it:  not all gay men know how or like to dance.  (I, for example, am a quarantasinestrapede).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Wearing leather jeans and shirts in public (and no one saying anything).<\/i>  I still don&#8217;t get it, but I get an email at least once each week from someone who has questions about wearing leather in public.  I have blogged <i>ad naseum<\/i> about that matter.  Suffice it to say that I wear full leather often in and around my community, and hardly ever does anyone say anything, or if they do, what they say is complimentary.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Wearing leather or denim jeans tucked into tall boots (and not being called &#8216;gay&#8217; pejoratively for doing so).<\/i>  There are some who rant on various forums that &#8220;only gay guys wear jeans tucked into boots,&#8221; or when they see a guy with jeans tucked into their boots, they say, &#8220;that&#8217;s &#8216;so gay&#8217;!&#8221;  Oh fiddle-faddle&#8230; a demonstration of a weak mind.  If you have nice boots and want to show them off, draw on your self-confidence and do it.  Nobody gives a darn, and if they do, it&#8217;s their problem, not yours.  See my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bootedman.com\/how\/howto.html\">Jeans and Cowboy Boots info on my website<\/a> for more details.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><i>Being nice and being honest.<\/i>  Yes, it is possible to be both.  It has to do with living up to high standards of integrity and decency.  Just goes to show why my partner is my life-mate, and what my real friends are like.  I value integrity and being nice about it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I am more than weary of on-line boards and forums where some people rant about some of the above-mentioned characteristics and claim that the two cannot possibly be shown by one person.  They can, they are, and they do.<br \/><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To me, there are some things that people write or say that implies that they believe that the following things are mutually exclusive: Being a &#8216;biker&#8217; and being gay. I&#8217;ve blogged a lot about that. I am both. 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