I mentioned on this blog that a guy in a group who went with me on a group motorcycle ride on Sunday made a comment about my tall boots and leathers, asking if I were trying to be a fashion statement. I told him, “I am very comfortable.” He said, “okay” and didn’t say anything else… at that moment.<\/p>\n
But later at another stop on the ride, he couldn’t let it go. He made several “homo-ignorant” statements…
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\nWhat is “homo-ignorant?” That is a term that I made up to define what this guy, among others, say sometimes. Guys like this have two things in common: <\/p>\n
1) they always have to run their mouths, even if they have nothing meaningful to say. This guy gibber-jabbers all the time. All.the.friggin.time. He never shuts up! <\/p>\n
2) they do not realize that someone in their midst is gay, is in a relationship (such as me; I’m married to my man), or might in any way be offended by ignorant remarks.<\/p>\n
I differentiate this from “homophobia” because he is not afraid of gay people; he just says silly, stupid comments about anyone or anything.<\/p>\n
The homo-ignorant remarks he made at our next stop were: “are you going to try out for the return of the “Village People?” No sooner did that drivel fall from his mouth then he followed with, “or go marry a dude?”<\/p>\n
I looked at him with both disdain and shock. I thought about it, and the rest of my friends on this ride were wondering what I would say. I don’t know how I came up with this remark, but my reply was, “[name], you’re blathering a lot. Have you forgotten to take your meds today?”<\/p>\n
The rest of my friends broke out laughing. Then several of them took up a defense. Not specifically for me, but for honoring and respecting everyone. This blathering bozo’s comments were clearly disrespectful and just plain stupid. <\/p>\n
Then another one of my friends said, “he’s not going to marry a dude — he already has!” followed by another who said, “[BHD] has the greatest motorcycle boots and gear. Maybe he can give you lessons.”<\/p>\n
I didn’t say anything else, nor did the blathering buffoon. And that’s how this guy is observed — just a silly, blathering buffoon.<\/p>\n
We went into the restaurant for lunch and the subject changed to the ride, things we observed, and (as usual), sports. I noticed that the BB arrived at the table a little later with another fellow rider who sat next to me. He said, “don’t worry, I’ve set him straight.”<\/p>\n
Oh, there were so many things my evil little mind came up with to say, but I held my tongue. (giggle.)<\/p>\n
As we were leaving the restaurant, Mr. Buffoon came up to me and said, “I’m sorry, I didn’t know [about your marriage to your partner or that you were gay.] I didn’t mean it.”<\/p>\n
I’ll take that as an apology. <\/p>\n
But it didn’t quite stop. At the next place we stopped, Mr. Buffoon said, “you ride great for a gay guy!”<\/p>\n
Did he think he was paying me a compliment?<\/p>\n
My buddy who thought he had sorted things out spoke up and said, “[BHD] rides great, period. Why? He is a trained Road Captain. You ride much less skillfully. Let me see you at our next riding practice!” <\/p>\n
Mr. Buffoon said again, “I didn’t mean that… I meant that he is a good rider, that’s all.”<\/p>\n
Homoignorance strikes again. Oh sheesh. No reason to be upset; that’s just how this guy is. I feel sorry for him and everyone who has to put up with him on a more regular basis.<\/p>\n
The rest of the ride was uneventful. Next stop, BB continued his blathering, but about other things (that made no sense.)<\/p>\n
Suffice it to say, one major reason why I like this club is that my fellow riders are respectful, and I don’t always have to fight my own battles with the homoignorant crowd.<\/p>\n
Life is short: be who you are, wear what you like (as long as it includes appropriate motorcycle boots when operating a motorcycle!)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I mentioned on this blog that a guy in a group who went with me on a group motorcycle ride on Sunday made a comment about my tall boots and leathers, asking if I were trying to be a fashion … Continue reading