{"id":5241,"date":"2013-07-23T04:00:19","date_gmt":"2013-07-23T08:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=5241"},"modified":"2013-07-23T06:16:27","modified_gmt":"2013-07-23T10:16:27","slug":"not-a-dating-service","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=5241","title":{"rendered":"Not a Dating Service"},"content":{"rendered":"

It may be the phase of the moon or something else, but within the past ten days, I have received 14 messages from guys in the U.S. and Canada who are looking to meet other men who like boots and leather as I do.<\/p>\n

I have been asked,<\/p>\n

… “Do you know any guys in (city, state) who are into men into tall boots?”
\n… “What gay bars do you recommend in (location) where I can find a guy into leather?”
\n… “Where can I meet Mr. Right in (city, state) who also looks hot in leather and boots?”<\/p>\n

My response?
\n
\nI don’t know. I really don’t know. Sorry, but I have retired from the leather\/boot community and honestly, I don’t know anyone any more. <\/p>\n

It is hard for some people to understand that with as large a boot collection as I have and as enthusiastic for leather as I am — and also that I don’t hide the fact that I am gay — that I do not socialize, do not attend leather-oriented activities (like club “runs” and leather title events), and am not connected with similar men around the U.S. and the world. But take it from me — I really don’t know.<\/p>\n

I realize that I am unusual–<\/p>\n

* I am gay yet my spouse and I do not socialize. At all. Period. We don’t eat out and don’t go to bars. Anywhere — even in our home town. My spouse is a total recluse and I am not a night-owl. Both of these factors seriously affect socializing.<\/p>\n

* I am married. That’s it — I am dedicated to one man, and one man alone. That relationship means the world to me and I do not put myself in situations where I might encounter a testosterone-driven man who is interested in something I will not do — “play” with anyone else. Not into boot worship or … ahem, other stuff. Period. End-of-story. I am faithful and always will be faithful to my one-and-only man.<\/p>\n

\"BHDweb07232013\"<\/a> * I have a public website. Yep, lots of “me” is out there in boots and leather. But my website is very clear — I enjoy displaying my boots and leather for cataloging purposes and to see, visually, what the boots and leather look like and share information about the gear. I know it is quite a contradiction and I can understand why people would think that with such a public presence that I might know other men to refer them to.<\/p>\n

There is another factor, too. I strongly protect the privacy of people who communicate with me. I have several pen pals developed through this blog and my website. I have some more friends I have gotten to know through the hotboots\/Boots on Line board. I appreciate and value those friendships and maintain my promise to my friends that I will never disclose any information about them — names, email addresses, locations, or info I have gotten to know about them. I expect my friends to treat me the same way, and they do. It is fair and “adult” to behave this way. <\/p>\n

Anyway, long story short — I’m sorry, but I do not know anyone to refer anyone to who has certain boot\/leather fetish interests. Keep looking, but if I can offer just one bit of advice — STOP USING THE INTERNET! The Internet gives a wildly distorted picture of what’s out there. MOST people who register on fetish, dating, and similar websites do not describe themselves honestly. Most people disclose factual information, but intentionally use a younger age, different location, or other adjustments to the facts. (I do that, too.) But there are some people who are absolute frauds and have nefarious intent in mind.<\/p>\n

\"Riding06\"If you want to meet a man who shares similar interests in boots and leather as you — get out there. Join a club or organization where similar men congregate (there still are gay social “MC” clubs), get involved in local activities where boot-wearing is the “norm” — such as a hiking or outdoors club or a motorcycle club (of course, you need to get a bike and learn how and ride). You won’t meet the man of your dreams trolling the Internet.<\/p>\n

I hang out with lots of men (and women) who wear boots regularly — I ride in an organized motorcycle club. None of the other club members are gay, or if there are any, they are in the closet. So be it. I am who I am and am accepted and welcomed as a leader in the club regardless of my sexual orientation. <\/p>\n

I wish everyone success. But sorry, don’t write to me for a suggestion on whom to meet. I don’t know.<\/p>\n

Life is short: get off the internet and get out to meet real people!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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