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When he says that he is feeling better, I take that to mean that not only is his physical recovery going better, but his mental outlook on his condition has dramatically improved.<\/p>\nI have been hesitant to post anything on this blog about my spouse’s ongoing health condition as he continues the fight to recover from the serious long-term infection he had all last year… mild recovery… relapse, and now… in his own words,
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\nWhen he says that he is feeling better, I take that to mean that not only is his physical recovery going better, but his mental outlook on his condition has dramatically improved.<\/p>\n
When my spouse’s physical illness was at its worst for six months last year, he developed what I thought was a permanent perception that it was his “lot in life” to remain sick, always be in pain, be fatigued, and unable to live life as he knew it. <\/p>\n
I kept focusing on the positive — small steps, little things that were good. I pointed them out and always focused on the bright side. On days when there was no bright side (many of those days, unfortunately), I would sing a stupid song, or tell a silly joke, or wear a funny hat, or make strange noises. I might crawl on the floor and pull on his leg. I might bring him some flowers or balloons. I always looked for ways to brighten his mood, his day, and his outward perceptions.<\/p>\n
Believe me, that took a huge amount of calling on my faith. There were days when I was not even sure I could hold myself together. It was damn hard sometimes.<\/p>\n
But when things got real tough, I would lean on my faith, my twin brother, my other siblings, and my close friends. Sometimes I needed to scream (privately) or cry or vent frustration and anger.<\/p>\n
Sure, I may project a happy-peppy-bright personality, and generally I am that way, but I am human, and I know that I cannot always be that way. Outwardly with my spouse — always. Inwardly with myself — not. Without my foundation of faith and the strong support of my family and close friends, I never would have been able to remain sane. <\/p>\n
Well, here we are. My spouse is admitting that he is feeling better. <\/p>\n
Has he recovered? Not completely. He may never completely recover.<\/p>\n
But with the change in mental attitude and more positive thinking, I truly feel that he is definitely on the mend.<\/p>\n
Thanking my faith, my brother, my siblings, and my close friends. But most importantly, I thank my spouse for saying what I have been longing to hear for some 19 months: “I am better.”<\/p>\n
Woo-hoo!<\/p>\n
Life is short: have faith and be positive.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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