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Okay, I admit… with some introspection and on getting reacquainted with a friend who is as much into leather as I am, it is confirmed that I am a “SIR” in the gay leatherworld.<\/p>\nOkay, I admit… with some introspection and on getting reacquainted with a friend who is as much into leather as I am, it is confirmed that I am a “SIR” in the gay leatherworld.<\/p>\n
I have always thought of myself as a masculine man. I have shunned characteristics of effeminate gay males. I respect that we are all different, and some people are more on the effeminate side than the type of man I am. <\/p>\n
I have also learned more about what a “sub” is to a “SIR.” Through this in-person reacquaintance with a really nice guy who ticks many of my boxes, …
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I am confirming again who I am as a gay man. Yes, call me, “SIR.”<\/p>\n
This is in no way dismissing the deep and long relationship and marriage I had with my beloved husband. I am “re-emerging” into a new me. I am getting out more often. I see myself smiling. Mostly, I feel my self-confidence and faith-in-self has come back.<\/p>\n
How did that happen? Honestly, it wasn’t easy and the process continues. My road to this point has been long. It has taken odd twists and turns. I have stumbled, fallen, and felt completely shattered.<\/p>\n
With exceptional support from my family and close circle of friends, with the opportunity to serve my community in a meaningful and needed way, with daily meditation, and with counsel of a superb support group, I feel that my self-faith and self-confidence has been restored. Ol’ BHD has re-emerged.<\/p>\n
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A hot guy I’ve known since I gave him a ride on my Harley 13 years ago noticed. He contacted me to check in. We had a long lingering lunch two weeks ago. Then I treated him to dinner at my house recently. <\/p>\n
My friend is more on the sub side, and I am enjoying learning more about myself as a SIR. It has been fun and rather hot to enjoy a more intimate relationship with a man since my only relationship with a man before this was with my husband (monogamously) since 1993. (And alone since he died in January 2021.)<\/p>\n
Let me be clear — I am not dishonoring my husband’s memory. He is always with me in my heart. But I know that he would want me to be happy. <\/p>\n
Since my only friends who live near me are straight, married, and at our age, have grandchildren, it has been quite lonely with no gay friends nearby. Or a man to… ahem… be intimate with.<\/p>\n
I have gladly risen to the title of SIR. I kinda like it. So does leatherboy. Woof.<\/p>\n
Life is short: enjoy a re-emergence into the sequel of my next movie.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Okay, I admit… with some introspection and on getting reacquainted with a friend who is as much into leather as I am, it is confirmed that I am a “SIR” in the gay leatherworld. I have always thought of myself … Continue reading