{"id":16841,"date":"2022-10-05T12:10:07","date_gmt":"2022-10-05T16:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=16841"},"modified":"2022-10-06T07:50:06","modified_gmt":"2022-10-06T11:50:06","slug":"am-i-a-sir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=16841","title":{"rendered":"Am I a “Sir?”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"As I have taken some new photos during “leather weather” this Autumn, when I am in leather, I wear my Muir Cap<\/a>, sometimes known as a “Master’s Cap.” There is a lot of lore and legacy in wearing that head covering.<\/p>\n

One of the primary “old-school” Leatherman’s reasons for wearing such a cap is that he is a …
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\nDom (dominant) or Master or Top. (As for me — I need to cover my baldness and keep my head warm).<\/p>\n

Whatever one may wish to call him, wearing a Muir Cap, especially with an eagle pin, carries significance in the gay Leathermen’s community.<\/p>\n

\"\"We’ve all seen the photos, and there are tons of them, of the Leather Clan in their finest, with Alpha Males (doms, masters, tops) wearing a Muir Cap. It complements his complete gear and makes for a commanding presence.<\/p>\n

Guys look good in their gear, especially those wearing a Muir Cap. (As we often say, “Woof!”)<\/p>\n

Masters in the Leatherman’s community are frequently called “Sir.” Especially when they are involved in what I call roll play. Man gay men enjoy various roles — master\/dom\/top and sub\/slave\/boy. I get it.<\/p>\n

\"\"Neither my husband or I played roles. Both of us were Tops. (Yes, Top Men can be equals and have fun in the bedroom without roll play.) That is how we were — and I am not judging those who enjoy roll play and being a Master to a sub. It is all healthy fun.<\/p>\n

My husband and I had a co-equal relationship, and we honored it by remaining consistently monogamous. Some gay men have different relationships and multiple sex partners. That wasn’t us, but again, I don’t judge what others choose to do. <\/p>\n

As for me — am I a Sir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"\"I raise this because on the Recon network or even in email, I have received messages that frequently bestow the title of respect on me, “Sir.”<\/p>\n

As a mature man, I guess I have earned that. I do appreciate the respect of the title, but as I have said in my replies, I am a “retired leatherman.” I do not attend gatherings of the Leather Clan mostly because I am not ready for anything but a casual and friendly meet-up and still feel as if I am married. Plus, I am still reticent to be in crowds of people (thanks, Covid) and have never been a night-owl.<\/p>\n

I also feel a little that being called “Sir” has two connotations that I do not like. Being in Management, I was called “sir” in my job by subordinates, and I don’t work there any more! Also, my Dad was a Sir, and I just don’t feel that I could ever be my Dad. <\/p>\n

I have explained to those who have communicated with me, just call me by my first name. After all, I’m just a biker in the ‘burbs (who wears leather!)<\/p>\n

Life is short: enjoy respect, but also be humble-who-you-are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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