{"id":15094,"date":"2019-04-15T06:10:48","date_gmt":"2019-04-15T10:10:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=15094"},"modified":"2019-04-15T06:10:48","modified_gmt":"2019-04-15T10:10:48","slug":"spouse-is-done-and-so-am-i","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/?p=15094","title":{"rendered":"Spouse is &#8220;Done,&#8221; and So Am I"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/Fall2016b-300x290.jpg?resize=300%2C290\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"290\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-12115\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/Fall2016b.jpg?resize=300%2C290&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/Fall2016b.jpg?resize=150%2C145&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/Fall2016b.jpg?w=310&amp;ssl=1 310w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>A couple weeks ago, The Spouse turned to me and said, &#8220;I&#8217;m done.&#8221;  <\/p>\n<p>[me] What do you mean?<\/p>\n<p>[spouse] I am just done.  Done done done.<\/p>\n<p>[me, in my mind] <em>just what are you &#8216;done&#8217; with? Don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s me, or our house, so what are you &#8216;done&#8217; with?<\/em><br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\nRelax, readers.  Spouse isn&#8217;t done with me (yet), or our marriage, or our life.  He is &#8216;done&#8217; with feeling lousy and chasing ghosts.  He is done with making appointment after appointment with specialists, going through batteries of repetitive tests, all to reach the same conclusions, &#8220;yes, you are feeling lousy, but there is no medical reason that we can find, so we have nothing we can treat.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/TorontoCanadaDay-300x200.jpg?resize=300%2C200\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-15097\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/TorontoCanadaDay.jpg?resize=300%2C200&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/TorontoCanadaDay.jpg?resize=150%2C100&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/TorontoCanadaDay.jpg?w=400&amp;ssl=1 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>It has been a long, long, battle with effects of an infection caused by a tick bite, and severe and lingering illness resulting therefrom.  <\/p>\n<p>But now Spouse&#8217;s &#8220;new normal&#8221; is to accept that how he is feeling now is how he will be feeling for the rest of his life.  Not great, but tolerable.<\/p>\n<p>About the same time that Spouse was arriving at this self-awareness, I reacted to a news report that the Idiot-in-Chief wants to waste millions of dollars having a military parade on the Fourth of July in downtown Washington, DC.  To me, I was &#8220;done&#8221; with the waste, bloviating, and constant lying.<\/p>\n<p>So Spouse and I turned to each other and hatched an idea &#8212; let&#8217;s go on our first vacation.  Yeah, real vacation-vacation away from this place for a while.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Trams-300x196.jpg?resize=300%2C196\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"196\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-15095\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Trams.jpg?w=300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bootedmanblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Trams.jpg?resize=150%2C98&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Where to?  <\/p>\n<p>I know, let&#8217;s celebrate with our friendly neighbours to the north.  Spouse loves, just loves, trams &#8212; so let&#8217;s catch a non-stop flight to Toronto in time to enjoy Canada Day (1 July), see sights we want to see, ride the trams, and celebrate Canada&#8217;s 152nd year of its federation as a country.<\/p>\n<p>This past weekend, we put those plans into place.  Toronto, here we come!<\/p>\n<p>Life is short:  think positively and plan forward!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A couple weeks ago, The Spouse turned to me and said, &#8220;I&#8217;m done.&#8221; [me] What do you mean? [spouse] I am just done. Done done done. [me, in my mind] just what are you &#8216;done&#8217; with? 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