Blogging When It’s Good

My spouse mentioned to his doctor during a regular follow-up visit that he has found some blogs written by people who have the same tick-borne infections that he has. He noted that those blogs describe the pain and difficulty of dealing with the symptoms caused by the infections. These blogs are written sometimes by the infected person him/herself and sometimes by caregivers.

What bothered him most about those blogs is that they ended abruptly once the infected individual began to feel better. There were no more posts describing anything about recovery.

I realize that I have posted a lot about my spouse’s and my journey in dealing with those infections. However…

…when looking back at my posts, I was not among those who stopped posting when my spouse began to feel better. I have posts throughout the autumn and early winter — the last several months — describing his slow recovery.

My spouse is not fully recovered. He may never be. His post-infection reality is a new way of having to manage daily life. He can barely walk without an assistive device. He has constant joint pain. He gets annoyed and sometimes angry at realizing that he cannot do things like he used to do, like drive his own car whenever and wherever he wants to go. He is still taking a few prescription meds in maintenance doses. He cannot eat certain things that he loves and has to eat bland, distasteful rabbit food most of the time.

All these things — the meds, the inability to walk or drive, and the rabbit food diet — are constant reminders to him that his new reality is not the future that he nor I envisioned for his retirement. Sometimes, naturally, that makes him angry or grumpy or unhappy.

However, most of the time, he is calm and becoming adjusted to his world. He is thinking about the future and post-active-illness times in terms of months, not day-to-day.

Things are indeed looking up. But we still take it one day at a time.

I had faith — and still have faith — that my spouse will be well.

Life is short: adjust to reality and learn to manage it with a brighter outlook.

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About BHD

I am an average middle-aged biker who lives in the greater suburban sprawl of the Maryland suburbs north and west of Washington, DC, USA.