20 Questions: I Guess I’m Not That Gay

I stumbled upon an interview in the local DC gay newspaper with a guy who married a local TV news guy. He was asked a set of questions that, to me, were focused on his sexual orientation and his answers portrayed him to fulfill all of the stereotypes that gay men have been saddled with. Uggghhh…. So here goes — my answers to the same questions.

1. How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

My disclosure and coming out about my sexual orientation was gradual. It first began when I was in my 20s and confirmed that I was interested in guys. I came out to my close family at about age 33, some 25 years ago, but remained in the closet at work, fearing retribution from retired military officers for whom I worked at the time. I came out fully in my life, neighborhood, and at work when I changed jobs in 2006.

The hardest person to tell was my mother. (See this post for details.)

2. Who’s your LGBT hero?

I don’t really know. I haven’t thought about it.

3. What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?

I never have enjoyed going out at night. However, I remember some interesting times at the old DC Eagle (two versions ago) back in the days soon after I met my spouse/partner.

4. Describe your dream wedding.

Private 15-minute ceremony in the County Courthouse in the county of my lifetime home. Just the two of us with my Best Man, marriage ceremony conducted by a judge I’ve known my whole life, a few photos, sign the marriage license, and then go elsewhere in the Courthouse to file papers to re-title jointly held real estate. Come to think of it, that’s what we did! The absolute last thing I would want is a big gay wedding with all the froo-froo, frills, and dancing. (shudder!)

5. What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?

Ignoramuses using a mobile device while behind the wheel of a vehicle. Hang up and drive!

6. What historical outcome would you change?

Not have President Lincoln get assassinated. There was so much more that he could have done and reconstruction with reunification of the South with the North would have been accomplished sooner.

7. What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?

MoonblogWhen Apollo 11 landed on the moon on July 20, 1969 and Neil Armstrong descended the ladder from the LEM. I remember watching it on TV live.

8. On what do you insist?

Honesty, integrity, decency, courage and financial stability. Oh, and no diet soda.

9. What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?

I don’t tweet, and BHD isn’t on Facebook. BHD’s alter-ego posted about his birthday surprise of a cake from senior pals and a Big Bear delivering a hug and a card.

10. If your life were a book, what would the title be?

How a Klutz Can Ride a Motorcycle and Other Random Thoughts.

11. If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Live and let live. That’s a personal matter.

12. What do you believe in beyond the physical world?

I have faith, but I don’t believe in a deity. I also still believe Pluto is a planet, regardless of what scientists say.

13. What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

Keep working on reigning in the “religious wrong” with attempts to write discrimination into laws such as “religious liberty” crap.

14. What would you walk across hot coals for?

My spouse and my family. Always, without question.

15. What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?

That all gay men are effeminate queens, behave with social cattiness, and are only capable of jobs in hair styling, fashion, or the travel industry.

16. What’s your favorite LGBT movie?

I don’t have one. I don’t follow movies of any sort, LGBT or otherwise. I really don’t care. (Although I did like the boots in Brokeback Mountain).

17. What’s the most overrated social custom?

I use and strongly support everyone using good social manners. That means, for example, that men should not wear flip-flops in public places.

18. What trophy or prize do you most covet?

I don’t covet tropies or prizes… this question is very egotistical and is not like me at all.

19. What do you wish you’d known at 18?

My father. He died when I was 12.

20. Why Washington?

I have deep roots in the Maryland suburbs outside the city. I appreciate Washington because it is our nation’s Capital and there are many activities to see and do there, many of which are free to the public. But I also strongly dislike the city because I am not a city boy. I am not an urban creature. Also, I can’t stand that Congress can meddle in local affairs at the whim of any Member of Congress who chooses to do so.

Bonus: the original 20 questions from which I built this post is here. Stereotypes abound … yuck… not me at all!

Life is short: just be yourself.