I have a large family on my father’s side. Most of them are Catholic. I have one cousin, however, who was baptized Catholic yet left the Church and calls himself a “Bible believing Christian.”
He is among those who have expressed inaccurate points of view about homosexuality. His occasional diatribes cause me sadness. I am so sorry for him that he has been indoctrinated (some may say, “brainwashed,”) by others in his sphere to believe that homosexuality is a choice and is “practiced.”
Here are some things he has said in public statements,
Homosexuals are individuals who want to live out a sexual “desire” and preference.
This guy fathered a daughter. Was he living out a sexual “desire” when he had sex with his wife that resulted in pregnancy and birth of their daughter? Does that make him by his own definition homosexual? Or does that mean he is a “practicing straight?”
I also have read this cousin’s rants where he refers to people “practicing homosexual behavior.”
I do not practice homosexuality. That term causes me to feel angry because the way I read my cousin’s tone, he is making the verb “to practice” synonymous with the verb “to prey.” It is like there are homosexual men hiding behind trees and jumping out to “practice” homosexuality on people.
I was born homosexual. That is, my preference and sexual orientation toward men over women is ingrained in my DNA. I met, fell in love with, and married a man. One man. I don’t run around “practicing” homosexuality on any other men. Never did, not now, and never will.
This is the fundamental reason why I become angry with some (not all) people who label themselves as Christian when some of them were taught, indoctrinated, or brainwashed to believe that homosexuality is a choice and that it is an activity.
Homosexuality is neither a choice nor a behavior. I did not choose to become gay and I never “practiced” it.
Here is another quote from my cousin:
The Bible says that the practice of homosexual behavior itself is not morally acceptable nor is their attempt to be united in marriage.
Besides improper grammar, my cousin uses his Bible to state that I am morally unacceptable because I was born homosexual and my “attempt” to be united in marriage with my spouse is wrong. Tsk tsk tsk, the state of Maryland provided for my civil marriage by issuing a license. Not the Bible. ‘nuf said… again, religious indoctrination, choosing selected quotes and providing one’s interpretation of those quotes. Sad, really, when you think of it.
I am very sorry for my cousin, and for the millions like him who refuse to understand basic science. I have asked before, “when did you choose to be straight?”
Life is short: have faith that these people will eventually learn that homosexuality is inherent, not a choice.