Holding My Man

My beloved spouse is still recovering from a relapse of a long-term bout of illness caused by an infection from two microbial organisms transmitted by a tick bite.

It worries me that each evening, I literally have to hold him and guide him to the bathroom and then bedroom, as he is not quite able to walk on his own. But holding him, guiding him, and loving him is not a burden, but my devotion.

Most days, my spouse does fine. He is working on more courses to obtain a second bachelor’s degree. He works at his studies all day. Fortunately, he can do that from the comfort of our home.

I prepare special meals for him to eat for breakfast and lunch while I am away at work. He assures me (and I can tell from the dishes in the sink) that he is eating.

When I arrive home from work, I catch up on our respective days and prepare dinner. I seldom go out after dinner to community meetings any more. My community involvement is reduced to being “an old sage”. I let the younger dudes take on the challenges of community involvement. My volunteer involvement these days is more focused on my senior pals, doing odd-jobs and taking them grocery shopping on weekends.

These days after dinner, my spouse and I retreat to our basement leisure room. He prefers to watch TV shows that he has recorded on his Tivo. I sit next to him and hold his hand. I enjoy that … just relaxing and feeling the warmth of his hand in mine.

My man will get better. I have faith. Always. Deep faith.

Meanwhile, I share the following song with you, which is a tune that my spouse found and played for me the morning of the day we married. I particularly love the phrase, “Just one look at you, I know it’s gonna be a lovely day!” Aww…

Life is short: love your man.

3 thoughts on “Holding My Man

  1. You are blessed to have found your love, and he likewise to have found you.

    Your messages regarding the devotion you each have towards the other are inspiring for those of us who are still searching.

    Enjoy every moment you are together, and thanks for sharing them with us readers.

  2. BHD I just want you to know that I keep up with your daily comments and enjoy reading them. I have a friend here where I live that has Limes Disease and I know what he goes through. The doctors he see have recommended that he scuba dive as they are trying to break down the area where the disease is located in for for the medicine to do its work.

    • Royce, thank you for your comment. I edited it a little bit because due to the nature of how the internet works, I do not wish to disclose the name of the infection that my spouse has. Anyone can find this blog by searching for the name of my spouse’s illness (if I spelled it out), and I don’t want to have that happen.

      I appreciate your warm heart and good intentions.

      You are on target, but you should know that you are using the wrong term for the name of the disease that your friend has. This article describes it and names it correctly.

      Trust me, I have reviewed every suggestion for treatment available on the planet. In some cases, the infusion of oxygen such as is used in Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy (HBOX) and scuba diving can be effective because the organism that causes the disease effectively is anaerobic (lives without oxygen) so infusion of oxygen sort of poisons the organism and it cannot reproduce and dies. However, this treatment is not effective in all cases and is contraindicated (ruled against) when other symptoms and the patient’s condition are evaluated all together.

      What I am trying to say is that we (my spouse and I) truly know what we’re doing. We have done a lot of research and actually have taught doctors a thing or two. We do not attempt treatments that are inappropriate considering the overall situation, or jump at whatever internet diagnosis suggests next. We are on track; PTLDS takes a long, long, long time to resolve.

      Thank you for your concern and well-wishes.

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