I gathered and rode with a large group of bikers who are cops, retired cops, or are in some way related to a law enforcement professional or work in the profession. We rode to join an event that is held around the same time as “Police Week” in Washington, DC. Motor officers from only seven (7) jurisdictions joined that ride this year, which was disappointing.
Anyway, I digress… what two worlds?
No one said a thing. Either they didn’t notice how I was describing my relationship, they did not care, or if they did, they didn’t want to make an issue out of it. Fine… we have this peaceful understanding going on.During the staging of this law enforcement motorcycle event, I happened to see my good friend Clockner, who I have had the pleasure to visit with each year when he comes to DC for Police Week. I didn’t know he was going to be there, so seeing him was a pleasant and happy surprise. I had a chance to visit with him for about an hour. He also introduced me to a friend of his who was there to take pictures. The three of us exchanged glances and made notes about certain things we were seeing — much like straight men talk about interesting-looking women, gay men talk about interesting-looking men, and gay “bootmen” talk about interesting-looking boots. Both Clockner and I are in committed, monogamous relationships with partners we have been with for decades. We don’t lust after the guys we talk about, much like my straight married friends do not lust about women they see. Then up strolls one of my fellow riders, and my conversation shifts… from boots to bikes… from uniforms and a cute butt to a new style of Honda police motorcycle. It was this way all morning — talk about topics of mutual interest with my gay friends, and other topics of mutual interest with my straight friends. Same thing happened when we arrived at the destination after the ride was concluded. I walked over to the gathering area with my fellow (straight) riders, and we talked about the ride. Naturally. I then contacted someone who asked if I were going to be there, and found him quickly. Auxmccop from the “boots on line” board. Nice guy. I’m glad I had a chance to meet him face-to-face. He was there with a group, including some teens, so I could tell that he was being reserved about what he talked about. As he should — there are things you talk about privately and not within earshot of children. He is very much like me in the way he applies and uses discretion. He pointed out to me, for example, the new motor breeches worn by the NYPD — notice the blue and silver stripes. The silver is reflective, for better visibility at night.
Again, I was comfortable in both worlds. The “gay bootmen’s world” when meeting Auxmccop, and the “biker world” when hanging around with the guys I rode with.
Anyway, it was no big deal operating in both worlds, or with groups who have separate interests, and where I intersect with each is where we have interests in common — boots, bikes, and motorcops.
The photos that I took at the Law Ride 2012 are here.
and as an added treat, photos that clockner took at the same event are here.
Life is short: be comfortable in your own skin, and be who you are.